Karma & Diamonds

HAVE YOU EXPERIENCED THIS? Let me know in the comments. If you relate... Remember to get my best seller 'KARMA & DIAMONDS' where I dive into this on a deeper level 💎 #smitajoshi #femalenarcissist #narcissisticabuse #gaslighting #manipulation #narcissist #lovebombing #smearcampaign #traumabonding #narcissisticabuseawareness

Narcissists don’t just show up in relationships, they're in your friend groups too 👀 … #smitajoshi #narcissist #narctok #DomesticViolenceAwareness #BreakTheSilence #DVAM #dvawareness #narcissism

They want a mirror, not a person. Someone who reflects back admiration, never challenges them and silently absorbs their emotional baggage while asking for nothing in return. #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #psychology #emotionalintelligence #narcissist #narcissism #relationships #breakups #trauma

You’ll never win with a narcissist by being logical, kind, or fair. They don’t play by those rules. But once you stop playing their game—and start standing in your power, you flip the dynamic entirely. Here’s how to stay two steps ahead (without losing yourself in the process): 1️⃣ Become Boring with the Grey Rock Method Narcissists crave chaos and drama. If you stop reacting emotionally and respond with calm, flat answers, they get bored. 💡 Why it works: No emotional payoff = no fuel for their manipulation. 2️⃣ Call Out Confusion, don't get into a conflict when they gaslight you, don’t argue. Instead, stay calm and say: “That’s not how I remember it, can you explain what you mean?” 💡 Why it works: It disarms their tactic without escalating things, and they hate being put on the spot. 3️⃣ Use Strategic Silence You don’t need to explain yourself. You don’t need to defend your truth. Just pause, and let the silence speak. 💡 Why it works: It throws them off. Silence = control. 4️⃣ Frame Boundaries Strategically Narcissists hate being told what to do. So give them the illusion of control. Try: “I know you'd want us both to feel respected, so here's what I need moving forward.” 💡 Why it works: They’re more likely to cooperate when they think it was their idea. 5️⃣ Be Unpredictable They expect a reaction. Give them something different, calm, humour, or just walking away. 💡 Why it works: You become harder to manipulate when they can’t read your next move. You don’t need to out-argue a narcissist. You just need to stop feeding the dynamic. Your clarity, boundaries, and silence throws them off most. Have you tried any of these before? Let me know in the comments. #smitajoshi #narcissist #narcissism #narcissistic #narcissisticabuse #therapy #covertnarcissist #narcissistrecovery #narcissistawareness #narcissistfree #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery

Gaslighting isn’t always loud... It can look like minimising your pain, twisting your words or making you question your memory until you start apologising for things they did. That’s not miscommunication, it’s manipulation. If you relate... Remember to get my best seller 'KARMA & DIAMONDS' where I dive into this on a deeper level 💎 #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #psychology #emotionalintelligence #narcissist #narcissism #relationships #breakups #trauma

Have you ever tried to get clarity from a narcissist? cc: najwazebian #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #narcissism #gaslighting

You were asking to be seen, heard and respected - the most basic ingredients of healthy love. The problem wasn’t your needs, it was the person who never intended to meet them. If you relate... Remember to get my best seller 'KARMA & DIAMONDS' where I dive into this on a deeper level 💎 #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #psychology #emotionalintelligence #narcissist #narcissism #relationships #breakups #trauma

Sometimes narcissistic abuse survivors wonder if they are the narcissist... Here are 5 signs you are not a narcissist (even if you've started to question it): 1. You feel deeply for others. You have the capacity to hold space for someone else's pain. You care, you empathise, and you often put yourself in other people’s shoes without even realising it. 2. You take responsibility for your actions. When you mess up, you own it. You reflect, apologise, and genuinely try to do better. That’s accountability, not avoidance. 3. You’re introspective and emotionally aware. You think about how your words and actions impact others. You pause, question yourself, and grow from it. That alone separates you from narcissistic patterns. 4. You don’t manipulate to control. If you’ve ever questioned your behaviour, that already says a lot. Maybe you’ve picked up survival traits from trauma, but you don’t intentionally harm others. That matters. 5. You respect boundaries. You don’t bulldoze people’s limits or make everything about you. You honour space, consent, and the emotional capacity of others, even when it’s hard. Do you have any of the above signs? #smitajoshi #NarcissisticAbuse #Gaslighting #HealingJourney #EmotionalAbuse #narcissist #narcissism #narcissistic

Could you do the 3 day rule? Let me know in the comments. cc: nia.papayaa #smitajoshi #girltalk #chitchatgrwm #adviceforgirls #relationshipadvice #situationship

When someone confuses your boundaries for rejection it’s often because they were only ever comfortable with the version of you who said yes, stayed silent, and didn’t question what felt wrong. Your wholeness makes them uncomfortable. #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #psychology #emotionalintelligence #narcissist #narcissism #relationships #breakups #trauma

Here they are... 1️⃣ He Depends on You Emotionally, But Doesn’t Support You Back You’ve become his emotional caretaker, but your needs? Often ignored. 2️⃣ He Expects You to “Fix” Him He treats you like a therapist, not a partner—placing his healing in your hands. 3️⃣ He Becomes Childlike in Conflict Instead of open communication, you get tantrums, stonewalling, or sulking. 4️⃣ He Resents Your Independence Your power threatens the control he never had as a child—so he tries to dim your light. 5️⃣ You Feel Like His Mother, Not His Lover And that emotional burden? It slowly replaces attraction with exhaustion. If this resonates... You don’t have to play the role he assigned you. Remember to get my best seller 'KARMA & DIAMONDS' where I dive into this on a deeper level 💎 #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #narcissist #childhoodtrauma #narcissism

Have you ever been manipulated by a female narcissist? Let me know in the comments. cc: paul.gillen #smitajoshi #femalenarcissist #narcissisticabuse #gaslighting #manipulation #narcissist #narcissisticabuseawareness #toxicrelationships #npdrecovery #npdawareness